“No union is more profound than marriage, for it embodies the highest ideals of love, fidelity, devotion, sacrifice and family. In forming a marital union, two people become something greater than once they were.” - Justice Anthony M. Kennedy
Waking up on the morning of June 26th, 2015 is one of those memories that you know will be forever imprinted in your brain. Tears fell from my eyes as I heard the news via friends and the internet that same-sex marriage had been legalized across the nation. Could America be doing something right for once? This is history, you think to yourself. Regardless of where you stand on the fence, this moment itself is history.
Unlike many heterosexual females my age, I don’t have a wedding board on pinterest, and I can’t recall memories of my childhood where I designed a wedding dress. I’ve never even seen an episode of “Say Yes To The Dress." I never longed for the moment where I would begin the rest of my life with someone where we lived together and had little people children things. For me, marriage isn’t something that ever really seemed part of my plan. Not in a bitter way, but in a 'love’s on the table but marriage and it's surrounding ideals itself seem like a hazy idea for me' way. While I love weddings, being the big sap that I am, anytime one is mentioned I always picture myself in the pews watching but never at the alter standing and committing.
My person, my best friend, the one person I would take a bullet for or punch a bitch in the face for, is gay. Two of my best gal friend pals, one being one of the biggest inspirations in my life and one who I sometimes felt shared a soul with (both things being something extremely sacred to me) are also gay. These people are the ones I’ve seen been more vulnerable to love and all of it’s guts and glory more than anyone, partially because they had to due to the world’s cruelty for so long. Until June 26th, here I stood never caring about marriage - whether I had the right to do it or not - and here these people stood, unable to ever have the right to declare the love that they worked hard for, for the sanctity of a partnership that they, unlike me, actually cared about. How did that make sense?
So today same-sex marriage was legalized. For a straight girl like myself, not much changed. I could have gotten married yesterday, and I still can tomorrow. What it does mean is that I get to continue to learn about life and love from the people I’ve seen know it best - the people around me who I love regardless of the gender of who they love.